I am insisting that if we women truly want equal partners in the home, then we can’t ask our husbands to be “equal” on our terms. They get equal say, even if we disagree. And indeed, if we can discover the joys and satisfactions of professional success, why shouldn’t men be able to enjoy the rewards and satisfactions of parenting and homemaking? For years, mothers have gotten that special rush when a child reaches for his mommy and says no one else will do; do we really think a father doesn’t get the same wonderful sense of being needed and valued when a child insists on his daddy?
This article focused on a now widely discredited New York Magazine story on feminists giving up on work to enjoy the bliss of being a housewife. I won’t get into that, but the story led to some nice articles surrounding it, with this included. Things have definitely changed just since I started this blog three years ago. Men get included in the conversation, even if near the bottom and still not totally in the mainstream.
Needless to say, after all my paternity leave, and my shorter working hours, I do get that rush from being equally bonded with my kids. And I wouldn’t trade it for the world, even if it comes with all the grind as well.