Over at Dadwagon, one of the posters just started his toddler in daycare in New York:
Isn’t it supposed to be harder than this? In preparation for today, I’ve been reading various Websites for advice—give the kid a favorite toy or favorite food, bring a family photo the teacher can show her—and we’ve been carefully referring to it as “school” not “day care” or “babysitting.” And we limited our time in the classroom so she wouldn’t expect us to be there all day.
Huh. I guess those things work. The only thing we weren’t prepared for is that Sasha wouldn’t really need us around.
And here is what I posted there. It goes to what I wrote about on Tuesday, my real ambivalence on daycare and having my kids in it so young. It is the true downside of the Swedish system. Everyone gets all this time, but we all only get this much time. I shudder at the thought of leaving Baby B when he is 19 months old. I know that is so old in many contexts but he does not seem so old.
Here in Sweden, all kids start daycare between 12 and 24 months. And everyone gets about a one to two week “in schooling” they call it. So parents go every day and then start leaving a little longer and a little longer.
Seems to work, though since our in schooling took a little longer, I got to see the mass chaos of a yard full of screaming toddlers. I think on some level this is the dirty secret the teachers try to hide from us – the mass wailing and despair that goes on for a good while.
My kid loves it now, of course. But I must admit that it made me wish I could stay home longer. You know, kindergarten seems right.